Sexual assault prompts prayer service

first_imgAbout 100 members of the University community gathered at the Grotto on Monday afternoon for a student-led “Prayer service for healing,” sponsored by Notre Dame’s student government. The prayer service was organized following an e-mail alert sent by Notre Dame Security Police (NDSP) on Friday afternoon informing students, faculty and staff that a sexual assault had been reported in a women’s dorm on the northeastern area of campus.Annmarie Soller| The Observer The alert, the first one the community has received this school year, sparked the prayer service, which kept with a tradition started by student body president emeritus Alex Coccia and student body vice president emeritus Nancy Joyce last fall.Senior Francis Vu opened the service with a prayer.“We gather in the peace of the sacred Grotto, joined together, united in Christ to support and pray,” he said.Vu asked those in attendance to pray not only for the healing of the victims, but for the perpetrators as well.Senior Alison Leddy, a resident assistant in Cavanaugh, delivered a call to action focusing on the responsibility of the community in ending sexual violence on campus.“On Friday, the day we all received the first email report of the year, the White House launched a national campaign called ‘It’s On Us’ to end sexual assault,” Leddy said. “This movement seeks to bring awareness to and support survivors of sexual assaults on college campuses across the country. While this ambitious and worthy campaign took life in Washington, our community in South Bend feels the impact of this problem closer to home and to our hearts.“We are not any college; we are not any community. We are ND. … When we chose to attend this University, which seeks to educate the mind and the heart, we chose to be more,” Leddy said.“One is too many. What affects one of us affects all of us.”In 2013, the White House launched a sexual assault prevention campaign with the tagline “One is Too Many.” On campus, Coccia and Joyce adopted the mantra and began Notre Dame’s own “One is Too Many” campaign, which involved pledge cards signed and placed outside dorm rooms, an online petition and videos put together by student government.This year, student body vice president Matt Devine told The Observer that sexual assault prevention may take off in a different direction.“We had a lot of great visibility with ‘One is Too Many’ last year. Perhaps this is an opportunity to move in some way; we’re looking at more action words … if there’s something we can do to incorporate the idea of an active bystander into the title, then we’d like to,” Devine said.“The prayer service today is very important, because it’s the first one. It’s the first-year students’ first introduction to something like this, and it’s important for them to understand that this is our response,” Devine said.Senior Grace Carroll ended the prayer service with an invitation for all to light a candle at the Grotto and to continue praying for an end to sexual violence.“When the light shines in the darkness, the darkness cannot overcome it,” she said.Tags: Campus Ministry, Prayer service, sexual assault, Student governmentlast_img read more

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5 Wrong Ways to Get Over Your Ex

first_imgLifestyleRelationships 5 Wrong Ways to Get Over Your Ex by: – August 29, 2011 80 Views   one comment Sharing is caring! Share Tweetcenter_img Share Share There comes a time in every person’s life when we have no choice but to get over ourselves. Yeah, we’ve made tons of mistakes in our own relationships, or maybe we have friends that have been in bad relationships from the very start and it was only a matter of time before their mate finally showed their true colors. The good news? When it’s all said and done, we don’t have to lose our dignity when we’re trying to move on.Think about how much time you’ve spent trying to make things work in a relationship, only to find out that things are better off broken. Why give away so much energy to people that are just not right for you? So, why lose sleep over your ex? There are good ways to get over your ex and there are tons are wrong ways that will leave you even more confused and upset. Why not take the easy road to recovery?Here are 5 wrong ways to get over your ex, and some rightalternatives to consider:1. Stop Being RevengefulSome people think the best cure to heartbreak is to get payback. So, you spend hours and hours, angry texting and playing phone tag with your ex, only to start a shouting match over the phone. Yes, it does feel good to release all of the tension you’ve had since you’ve broken up, but does it really change anything? The truth is you’re only wasting breath and giving yourself more of a reason to be upset. Plus, your ex is probably feeling great, because they know that they still have that effect on you. So, why even bother?Right Way: The best solution to let your ex know that you are happy and better than ever is to forgive them for their shortcomings and start living your life with purpose.Related: Revenge: Is It Worth It?2. No ReboundingAfter a bad breakup, the worst thing you could ever do is to rush into another relationship. Don’t get me wrong, there are quite a few people who don’t like to be alone and feel like they need that sense of companionship, but what if it’s just too soon?Right Way: Everyone owes it to themselves to take time out to heal after being in an unstable relationship. So, take some much needed “me” time and you’ll be happy that you never rushed into anything.3. Don’t Try to Rewrite HistoryOften we find ourselves making the same mistakes over and over again. We become closed minded on our preferences, simply because we get too caught up in what we think is right for us. How many times have we chosen someone that we thought was so right, but they turned out to be so wrong?Right Way: Stop comparing everyone to your ex and have an open mind when getting back into the dating scene. Remember that everyone is not the same, so just because your ex broke your heart, doesn’t mean that it has to happen again. 4. Going Into IsolationBreaking up has a way of making us all feel like you just want to shut the world out and be left alone, so we hide underneath our workload and act as if the world is over. There’s nothing wrong with feeling this way, but the more you keep to yourself the worse you will eventually feel.Right Way: Don’t just hide from the problem – confront it and move on. It’s time for you to bounce back in a healthy way by enjoying life!5. Staying ConnectedExes have a way of thinking that it’s okay to keep in touch, whether by email, text messaging or talking on the phone. Sometimes it’s not a bad idea to stay friends, but do you really want to stroll down memory lane?Right Way: First off, you have to know what’s best for you. If staying in touch with your ex is something that you simply cannot do, then don’t do it. Let the past be the past and start to look forward to your bright future.Overall, going through a breakup will always be hard, but it’sentirely possible to get over your ex minus the headache and the unnecessary heartache. So, anytime you experience a breakup, keep in mind the right ways to get over your ex and you’ll be on your way to the road of recovery.What helped you get over your ex?By Laura Yarborough,BounceBack.com Editorial Stafflast_img read more

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